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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  We had several friends at our wedding who already had kids and guess what, they found a way to NOT bring their kids to the wedding.  Destination wedding is "low class"?  Really?  Then so is a wedding in your grandma's backyard.

My parents are well aware that my brother and I don't get a long.  We are very, very different and have different family values.  Like...when our father is in the hospital with a heart attack, maybe, just maybe you should come and visit him?  Or if your parents loan your the money for car repairs, maybe, just maybe you should repay your two elderly parents?  Or at least say "thanks, guys?"

I don't see their kids as "siblings" for my child.  They are spoiled and ill-mannered.  They are rude and obnoxious.  Why would I want my kid around someone like that?[/quote]

Those several friends spent hundreds extra on care costs. Now that you have a child, you will soon learn how pricey it is for parents to go do stuff without kids, whether date night or attend a destination wedding.

Frankly, destination weddings are so selfish. You know the guests foot part of your wedding costs because so many stay at your eesort, right?

Your brother may have his faults but you are not perfect either. You cut him off for the wedding thing. Now that many Anonymous people are giving you a different perspective and being sympathetic to your brother, don't you think it's time to let go and forgive your brother's family?[/quote]

I don't know why everyone is dumping on OP.  First, she is completely within her rights to have the wedding she wants.  No one HAS to go to weddings.  Her brother could have brought the kids and found a sitter for the time of the reception, I doubt the resort staff has never heard of nannies.  A few hours with a sitter is not a big deal.  If it IS a big deal, they could have just declined politely.  Sending an angry email is out of line.

Now, I'm all for mending fences, but usually when I try to mend fences with someone I've gone off at a few years ago, I would at least preface it by some sort of acknowledgment.  Like, "I know we haven't been on the best of terms lately but..." or "I know we've said some angry things in the past, and I apologize for that, but I would really like to be..."  etc.  But not pretend that it didn't happen. [/quote]

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