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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mother was hit by a drunk illegal, who did a lot of physical damage to her about 7 years ago. My father was still fine - until he had a stroke last August. While he is about 90% there, he can no longer drive, etc. My mother drives, but only locally. She has emotional issues from the accident. My older sister went out there after being laid off from her job to help about 5 years ago. They all live in AZ. She lives with them and that has definitely helped, however she does need to work part time, and now after my Dad's stroke, they need more help than they think. My mother is getting resentful and screaming at everyone in the house. He just had a small TIA and because my mother refused to bring him to ER and my sister refused to call 911 due to being fearful, it took about 5 days to get it really address. If he passes his swallow study, today, he can go home without a tube. I am waiting for the results now.

Here's the kicker - my mother is so fearful, she refuses to address the idea of living here. She loves coming here, she just is terrified of change. We have a 1000 sq foot space downstairs for them if needed. We have a whole house for them in a great retirement area in MA if needed - much closer to family. I told her that the state would make the decision for her if she doesn't let us move her, as she can't take care of my father on her own and my sister is getting burned out. That seems to sink in.

They are capable of living 10 minutes away or so in a condo because I could be there to help when needed - my father can get around, toilet himself, etc. He could even help us pick up out a new car, pick out tiles, etc.  Did I mention the vicious dog that will attack me if I'm in the house so I can't visit in AZ? If they are here, I can pick my dad up and bring him back to our house when needed.

No, this is not easy, and it's usually one parent that is mentally impaired to some degree and makes the task impossible.  All I can do is try. [/quote]

I'm sorry. But why is your sister too afraid to call 911? [/quote]

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