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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP. I talked to him last night based on a lot of the feedback here. 
I told him that he has a medical condition that can be treated, yet because he is content with it right now he doesn't realize how urgent this is to US.

He seemed to think that I have a sex problem.  I told him that wanting to be with a partner in a committed relationship sexually 2x a week is NOT a sex problem. He actually said that maybe I have a problem with wanting sex too much, he said &quot;are you a sex addict?&quot; My jaw dropped.  It got a little heated when he said that. Not gonna sugar coat it, it really upset/angered me. He even said &quot;it's not the end of the world if we don't have sex&quot;

It ended with me asking him to go back to the dr or see another one for a second opinion. I said that I will/must go with him. I worry that he isn't explaining the full scope of how his has 0 drive vs low drive to the dr.  I couldn't really tell if he was taking me seriously, but I did say &quot;this is not how I can live my life, it's important to me to have that bond in a relationship and it is severely missing. Last night was the first evening in a long time that he went to the gym without me.&quot;

I'm not sure what is going to happen, but the feedback here at least validated my feelings and that this is NOT ME. It's him, and he can fix this if he wants to.[/quote]

[b]He even said &quot;it's not the end of the world if we don't have sex&quot;  [/b]&lt;-- Man here. You have to make it unmistakably crystal clear that you do not agree. A lot of guys will not go do TRT unless and until their woman says &quot;we need to have more sex or we're done&quot;. It is very possible he is not going to want to fix this until you put extreme pressure on him. Don't feel bad about it. If he does not yield to your pressure, then pull the plug, or you'll knowingly enter a lifetime of sexless unhappiness (which in due course you will bitterly regret).

The difference between zero drive and low drive is actually unimportant. What is important is that his drive is [i]too low for you[/i].

I would strongly advise going to a specialist in TRT. Many doctors, especially in general practice, are dismissive of low T as a problem and won't recommend TRT.[/quote]

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