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[quote=Anonymous]OP here, I've learned there is no right answer to the question of when to have sex. This obviously varies across relationships and people. I don't view sex as transactional so I was open to it when I felt comfortable and ready. It wasn't on the first date an wasn't on the 10th; about in between and it was hot, and has remained so. I don't view the sex as an issue; if a 50 yo guy is going to be turned off by an attractive (I'm told) 39 yo who wants to sleep with him, well, there's not much more to say there.

I'm currently with DD and my parents at a state park; it's been really nice and I'm using this time to relax and feel close to my family. He's peppered me with occasional texts since I've been here, all of the casual variety. I've responded sometimes, left it alone when I've been busy. The one time I added anything personal ("thinking about you"), he stopped responding.

Who knows what that means. Maybe nothing. I realize a poster upthread who called me out about wanting to take it slow but getting pretty emotionally involved was probably right. I guess I'd forgotten how nice it is to at least feel, if not be, loved. This guy said all the right things...had I considered getting married again? What kind of wedding? White dress?, etc. I admit it felt great to be asked those questions and I probably got pulled into it. It's frustrating that we often can't take people on their word; I do believe he has pulled back since he got my attention. What can I say? I'm approaching 40; I don't want to run anymore. I want to sit across the table and share a smile and know we have each other's back. To me, that's pretty blissful.

I've certainly been able to process quite a bit on this thread so thanks DCUM; kept me from trying to process this with him which I believe would have been ultimately unsuccessful. Space is best for now.[/quote]

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