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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a boy who is older, and who plays with a lot of girls, and yes - there are (generalized) differences! Things like risk taking, style of play, physicality, noise, when certain types of maturity occur, etc... [b]It's real[/b]. It's not all kids, but it's a generalization that bears weight in lots of cases. So I guess I am a #boymom.

Would I ever write that hashtag on Facebook or something? No way. That seems icky. Like showing a photo of my new concealer and saying #onlyforladiez - I mean sure, mostly for ladies, but that's not the entire truth!

When I've noted differences aloud to closer friends or neighbors, I usually say "I hate to generalize" or "This probably is just my experience" and 9 out of 10 times the other person say "Oh. No. I see it. It's real." They just don't hashtag it![/quote]

Nope. It's socialization. [/quote]

No it is not. My son almost exclusively plays with cars and trucks and trains. He has 4 girl cousins and when we go to their houses he will dig through the toy bins, past the dolls and Frozen gear, until he finds a car.

We have baby dolls and he never plays with it. But when his cousins come over they do play it. [/quote]

Why is that anecdote evidence of anything? Couldn't that be socialized behavior? [/quote]

Meaning what? He's a boy and he has a natural interest in cars and trucks. My nieces do not.[/quote]

What's a natural interest? Nothing you said points to the idea that's it's innate rather than learned.  [/quote]

DP but yeah it's hilarious how all these people don't understand that socialization is often unconscious. That's why these stereotypes/expected differences in girls and boys keep getting reinforced. [/quote]

Of course, some differences are the product of socialization.

But it's silly to claim that there aren't some innate differences in males and females. Humans are mammals. There are innate differences in the behavior of male and female lions, are there not? Why is the idea that there might be innate differences in the behavior of male and female humans so bizarre?

That doesn't mean, BTW, that our culture's standard gendered stereotypes align with any innate ones that exist. No one, for example, argues that female lions aren't viciously protective of their young. Yet we somehow label female humans "the weaker sex."[/quote]

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