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Good advice. And good balance. It really shouldn't be only about the sex the guy needs/wants to reconnect; [b]for many women the emotional reconnection is what is important[/b]. In good marriages, both are a priority.[/quote]

We have talked about this and my DW says that too.  I regularly try to strengthen that emotional connection between us.  But that's not the whole story.  I'm in shape, eat healthy (with her so are in this new health kick together), I indeed do half of the house work (all the dishes, 1/2 of the laundry, grocery shopping - and we both add things to the list), deal with the finances (taxes, investments, savings) while she does more of the shuttling around of the kids.  I also earn 6x as much as she does - my salary, however, does come at a price (my work hours and demands are simply more).  She says she has a strong desire for me, a high drive. I take her on a date every week - I choose the place and make the reservations.  I engage with our 3 kids every night (they are all pre-teen/teens), do homework/projects if they need help, help them prepare for tests (I'm the one they come to for all academic school related help). I communicate with her every day - little texts saying "I love you" or just a simple "thank you" if she did something that helped me out.

I can assure you I'm not the only man in this situation, so what gives?  This is what many of us struggle to understand.  We seem to be doing all the right things, but there's nothing that we get back to meet our needs. So the alternative is what, to act like a jerk because jerks and assholes get laid?[/quote]

PP, your problem is you're treating your wife like a princess when she wants to be treated like a whore.

You sound boring.[/quote]

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