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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - so to respond to some of these:

1. It's not an infertility thing, they have more kids than us.

2. We do not do anything un-neighborly (leave trash cans out, let our kids run wild or make lots of noise outside, not mow our lawn, etc etc). We take great care of the house and it certainly looks much better than when we purchased it. No parties at the home since we've moved in.

3. We do not have particularly strong personalities- I have friends like this so I know what a few people meant. But no, that's not us. Not active in politics, on social media, whatever. We are just like run of the mill normal people. Nothing interesting about us on the internet at all.

4. We are not ethnically, culturally or racially diverse (I would hope that doesn't matter, but in response to the Asian pp who suggested it). We are not very religious, but we are their same religion. I think they are more religious than us.

5. We're not the annoying Suzy Sunshine neighbors either who are trying to be everyone's BFF. Not at all. I just wave and say hi to people the way everyone else in our neighborhood does. And by "say hi", I really mean that - "Hi!" - not Hi how are you doing let me talk to you for five minutes.

6. We both work, as do they, no child care issues that anyone would be worried about.

7. Basically, we have had such limited contact (like none) that I don't think we would have even had the opportunity to do or say something that could have been considered offensive.

So all of that being said, here are my only ideas:

1. We did do extensive work on the home before moving in. It wasn't external, all internal. (so it didn't make a bunch of noise or create much mess outside). But maybe we/our contractors inadvertently created some kind of nuisance that they are upset about. That's certainly not outside the realm of possibility.

2. Related to the above, maybe they are offended because we have more money than them? I'm not even sure if we do have more money than them - for all I know they have more money than us. I suppose one could jump to conclusions about people doing a lot of work on a home. We do drive luxury cars.

3. We, especially me, are younger than them. I am pretty sure that I am the youngest (by about five years) adult living in our large-ish neighborhood. My husband is older than me, but he may also be the youngest man living in the neighborhood, or if not the youngest, one of the youngest. I don't know if our ages could have been upsetting or offensive in some way but it's the only demographic category I can think of that is markedly different from them. I would say I am probably 10-12 years younger than the wife. Not sure about the husband. (And no, I am not some kind of gold digger SAHM trophy wife who is ten years younger than her husband, that's not the situation at all. I actually make more money than he does).

[b]4. I really don't think this is relevant in any way but my husband mentioned it, so I will, but from an objective standpoint, one would say that I am more physically attractive than the wife. Again, I don't think this is relevant but in the interest of full disclosure, there it is. [/b]

5. To one of the PPs who asked, yes, there was a bidding war on the home. We did not behave in any inappropriate way with the sellers and were on good terms with them, but there were other people who wanted the home too. Maybe one of their friends?

Anyway, that's all I can think of. I bet it's the construction before we moved in.. that's the only real logical explanation. [/quote]

Your husband nailed it.  This is a very, very insecure neighbor that has problems inside her home.  Nothing like her airing it to the community by being completely rude....

Your husband is very wise and observant.  Probably why you married him (hopefully one of many reasons).  Enjoy your own decent people and decent friends.  Sometimes odd neighbors want carbon copies of themselves living next door - not likely, and not reasonable. Don't make their issues and problems yours.  They might be threatened by your mere existence; you could be showing them up somehow, and they don't like it. Your own husband says you are hot, so there is that - surely that does not sit well with them! It could be anything, however random. I wonder if you will soon find out that this neighborhood has a negative reputation because of the toxic personalities that have been there over ten years or more.  It happens. You do you, OP - without this weirdo.

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Umm, probably not that.  Women (even attractive women) have to deal with more attractive women all the time.  It's part of life.

If anything, the neighbor might want to have get togethers at their house w/o feeling obligated to invite the new neighbors over.  So they are being standoffish.

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