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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I got completely blasted when I previously posted about this on DCUM, but here goes ...

I pursued my ex- fiancé. I made the first move, I nudged toward escalating the relationship, etc. In hindsight, I see that he was flattered and swept up in the attention of someone who checked many desirable boxes - attractive, fun to be around, decent job and career prospects, family oriented. (I dared to say I was pretty on DCUM. What a bitch, I know). Anyway, it was a disaster. Despite some superficial compatibility and shared interests, we were completely unsuited for a life together and things imploded spectacularly. Deep down, I think he just didn't LIKE me, but I had desirable qualities.

When a man is interested, from my observations of my male and female friends' relationships and my successful marriage to my now-husband, he will do everything in his power to make it happen. When you pursue a man, you run the risk of him going along because you're the best option at the time.[/quote]

I won't blast you but clearly from other posters in this thread this isn't the only possible outcome.

OP try it out and then evaluate the relationship as it progresses. Plenty of relationships initiated by the guy also don't work out but no one blames that on the method of courtship. Such a weird argument. [/quote]

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