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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As PPs have noted, the way women pursue is different from me. You need to smile, show interest, laugh at his jokes, dress nicely/makeup etc, listen to him.

If he still doesnt ask you out, casually suggest meeting up once for a coffee or something non dating like.

If he still doesnt bite, give up. Further pursuing will only lead to a horrible marriage where you are always doing the running. [/quote]

Also as a woman thinking of "pursuing" you need to ask yourself this: are you truly okay with "pursuing" the whole way?  Or do you just want to take the first step, and hope that he steps in, change his mind about you and how much effort he makes, and picks up the "pursuit" game?  What if you're always the one initiating or making most of the effort?  Or do you think that by hooking him, so to speak, you can convince him to change?

A lot of these responses, frankly, sound like the latter - women who took the first step because their men were "shy" or inexperienced.  Once they knew there was interest, they stepped up.

What if that second part never happens?[/quote]

Stay single. Do not attempt to take control of your own fate.[/quote]

More like don't lie to yourself and pretend like you're not desperate, just "pursuing."  If you are really okay with it then go for it.  But don't get yourself into a LTR doing all the pursuing and then start bitchin' about how he doesn't like you as much as you like him etc (as per some of the posts here lately).  You know, especially after a couple of kids.[/quote]

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