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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP are these school events?  When the kids are with you don't let ex know about any events. Put them in sports on your time or hobbies without letting him know. We did that.  Swimming, and dance that were not school and near where we lived. We didn't want any exes or their "friends" showing up. We did camping trips and family things too. [/quote]

+1.  I stopped telling Ex about events school events, sports stuff, recitals, etc.  It's all public info and he could find out easily by googling if he cared.  He doesn't.  It's not my job to do emotional labor for him anymore.  It's also not my job to try to create an image of him for my kids that he is really not able to uphold himself.  I got tired of inviting him to stuff and then everyone worrying if he'd show up or not. [/quote]

Exactly, he can't google it if he doesn't know, or what troop little bluebird is in for girl scouts, or the YMC times junior is swimming, or what dance studio little princess is at.  We did separate things which worked out great plus we paid for it. Kids don't want the other parent bringing step so and so in tow with their own kids. It's embarrassing and hard on them. I see this time and time again with my friends who have irresponsible exes.

OP if ex DH would come alone and you could act as parents that would be one thing, but obviously he chose to be a shithead. What if OP had her family there, and they are still very much married as in legally. Very embarrassing for all.[/quote]

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