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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Married man, 44:

I loved the article.  Very detailed.  Intellectually, I like the idea.

But for me, kids take priority.  There's no way I would leave home to fool around with someone else, nor would I tolerate my wife doing so.

However, kids grow up.  Ours are.  And in a few years, I am seriously considering early retirement.   At that point, my wife and I will probably have a discussion.  The "ethical" aspect of non-monogamy is very important. [/quote]

And what if your wife balks, as most would?[/quote]

Then I would drop the issue.  And I'm fully aware, as the article explains, that wives usually have an easier time finding outside partners than husbands.  In our case neither of us had much experience with others  At a certain point you can only say, you only live once.[/quote]

It depends. If the couple has a normal/frequent but dull sex life, maybe I would drop the issue and instead order some new toys.

But if I were in a low-sex marriage then to "drop the issue" is a guaranteed downward spiral into resentment and divorce. Instead I would (again) clearly state my needs, ask her to participate in a normal sex life, and if she remains unwilling then I would inform her that she has in fact chosen an Open Marriage.

Past a certain again, say 40 yo, the "easier time" swings the other way: any man in fit condition with a decent career will have an easier time than your typical mom over 40.[/quote]

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