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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As others have said, getting married is no achievement. STAYING married is the real achievement.[/quote]

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This should read STAYING married and HAPPILY.....lots of people, many in my own circle are approaching the 15-20 year mark of marriage, but I will tell you that 90% of them can't stand their spouse and are miserable. They all want a divorce, but won't do it because of the kids. I only know two women that I would say are "happily married" and I look at those two women as achieving something that is worth having. Lots of people can stay married, but I don't think that says much.  [/quote]\

I don't know the people in your circle, obviously, but I feel this sounds a little black and white. Staying married even during rough spots is an achievement in my book, in particular if the people involved don't let the marriage devolve into horrible behavior during challenging times. Many marriages can and do have "up" periods (as does life), and I admire the self restraint, reflection and forward thinking that goes into riding out hard times.

Even mediocre marriages provide a measure of stability and structure to many people as well as society on a larger scale. I am not at all suggesting people should suffer through abuse, cheating, etc., but if sometimes you look over at your spouse and say "meh" but stay committed to your marriage, I do admire that. [/quote]

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