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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP Here. Thanks all for your feedback, it's always helpful to hear other viewpoints. I agreed with replies on both sides so I just sent her a text apologizing for the misunderstanding. [b]I told her that reading through our text thread, I can see where she did what I asked.[/b] She told me that she'd be coming by and then texted when she was on her way.  Then I said "I just think everyone has different opinions on advance notice and I hadn't really gone into detail with you about my preferences when we talked about it earlier. I'm glad we cleared thing up more now. Xo"[/quote]

It really doesn't sound like you have cleared anything up. You haven't told her what advance notice means to you, what she can do that you would consider acceptable.. You have also decided the situation is resolved based only on your own feelings about it. [/quote]

The apology is the bolded.  I can see you did what I asked, e.g. I was wrong and you were right.  Yes, it's not explicit, but accepting blame for the misunderstanding is an apology.

As for "what advance notice means to you" she'll be more explicit the next time MIL wants to come over.  If MIL sends a note saying she wants to stop by that day, OP now has 4 pages of suggestions from others, including many who think like her MIL about how to respond so that MIL knows how to convey when she'll be coming.

You sound like the type to hold grudges.  You get your panties in a twist when someone offends you and you expect them to grovel for an apology and expect them to completely bend over backwards to appease you before you'll acknowledge an apology.  You sound exhausting.[/quote]

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