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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your DH needs to have a boundaries talk with her. The new baby is the perfect excuse. He should do it in the most loving way, but he needs to make her understand that just because you're a stay at home mom doesn't mean the door is always open Monday-Friday. (He can remind her that she most likely didn't allow her MIL into her day at every one of her MIL's whims.) You can't have this talk. It can only come from him because nothing he says to her will make her think less of him - but it will make her think less of you if you try telling her any of it.  Have him take her out to lunch one day, just mother and son. She'll probably respond well if he tells her from the heart why certain boundaries during the week are important.  DH and I went through the same thing. It's just 'growing pains' as I like to refer to it. But now, we're in a great groove with his mom (who also lives 20 minutes away!)[/quote]

I hate when people say the husband has to step in.  The OP is an adult and should be able to manage her own relationships with the people in her life.  Nothing worse in family relationships than telling someone to tell someone else how you feel.  I wouldn't even trust my husband with that conversation, because it's tempered by how he feels about each of us.  Bad set up.

The OP handled it the way she wanted and now she's the only one who can determine if it had the desired effect.  Sometimes the first solution you try isn't the one that works.  That doesn't mean she's wrong or that it's not worth trying again.[/quote]

You sound like a pill. Of course the husband needs to step in. It's his mother. [/quote]

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