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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]3:43 indicates a friend said her transgender son was "way too cool to be a girl." 
This is quite indicative of why I consider the whole transgender issue to be getting out of control. Lots of trans advocates seem to be gender stereotyping. 
Zeke on Survivor wants to be "manly." 
Caitlyn Jenner wants to have long fingernails and dress up in sexy garments.
[b]I was a "tomboy" who might have been wrongly considered trans if I were growing up today.[/b][/quote]

To the bolded, interesting and very valid point. An article ran in the New York Times on this very subject a few weeks ago. "My Daughter Is Not Transgender. She's a Tomboy." It can be read here: https://www.nytimes.com/2017/04/18/opinion/my-daughter-is-not-transgender-shes-a-tomboy.html

It is written by a mother whose tomboy daughter is often assumed to be transgender because she doesn't conform to what society expects of a girl's looks/behavior. The mother states she would be supportive if her daughter did identify as transgender, but the daughter emphatically does not. Interestingly- and importantly- other children accept the girl for who she says she is when she says that she is, in fact, a girl. It is other adults- teachers, strangers, doctors, family friends- who continue to question if she's [i]sure[/i] she's actually a girl and not transgender, so focused are they on sex stereotypes and a misguided notion of acceptance.

The reaction to the piece by some was really indicative of the times. Many of the NYT commenters were women who grew up as tomboys who related to the piece, especially older women. But the reaction on Twitter, which came from social justice and trans activists, was at times quite harsh. The author was accused of misgendering her child- the commenters said he was her son, that she had "outed her son," that her daughter was actually trans, that she is hurting her "son" by misgendering, and so on. The article was called anti-femme (meaning, anti people whose physical appearance is feminine- for example, pink dresses and painted nails) and cissexist (meaning transphobic).

Some people said that because of attitudes like the on in the article "lots and lots of people" have died. Because the mom is a novelist, a few people even talked about showing up to one of her book readings to make a scene about her child actually being transgender. They contacted people with whom the author has had a professional relationship to tell them they had worked with a "transphobe." The author also previously wrote an article about an abortion she had- activists dug up the article and accused her of lying or embellishing details about her abortion, which they also said hurt trans people.

It wasn't just limited to trans activists on Twitter, though- Chase Strangio, an ACLU attorney who is Chelsea Manning's lawyer, wrote a highly-critical takedown piece of the article. It can be read here: https://theestablishment.co/an-open-letter-to-those-praising-the-new-york-times-tomboy-piece-755e655ce31c

Strangio calls the NYT Tomboy piece troubling, dangerous, not worthy of being published, responsible for trans erasure, and oddly, an example of white supremacy.

Please read the New York Times article and tell me you aren't troubled by the fact that when a woman who is very supportive of trans rights writes an article about her female daughter, the response is to attack her as a bigot, accuse her of lying about her abortion, to contact her colleagues, to say that women shouldn't speak about their life experiences because it harms trans people, to say that viewpoints like the ones expressed in the article are responsible for deaths, and to say she's enforcing a legacy of ableism and white supremacy for having written the article.[/quote]

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