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[quote=Lonely_Sojourner][quote=Anonymous][quote=Lonely_Sojourner][quote=Anonymous]My husband works full-time, and I work part-time plus take care the majority of life's choirs. My husband has a bad habit of going in my purse, which annoys me to know end. I will go to the store and find I have no money or credit card because he has gone in my purse and taken it, etc. I find going in my purse to be an invasion of my privacy and have mentioned it multiple times. This latest time he went in my purse and took out my daughters passport. I had it in my purse because I had to take her to the doctor, and couldn't find her insurance card and the doctor needed id to take her without the card. When I got there I realized my husband took it out of my purse and we had to reschedule her appointment. I told him he would need to take her to the next appointment. He says he is busy with work and I'm being unreasonable and selfish, since I have more schedule flexibility. I feel he should do it because he frequently causes me to waste my time in the midst of my household "work". For instance trips to the store only to find I have no way to pay because he has my form of payment. I feel my time and work is not being respected. What say you?[/quote]

In 16 years of marriage, I never, ever went through my wife's purse.  Even if she asked me to get something out of it, I would go get it and bring it to her.  Sadly, my wife died three years ago and I had to go through her wallet for the first time, I might add.  Even then I still felt as though that I was invading her privacy...  
Suggestion - go through his wallet...

LS[/quote]

Very sorry about your wife.

I'm a wife too (13 years and counting) and I don't mind if my husband goes through my purse or wallet.  He would never dig around for no reason though, but if he needs money or my credit card, he's more than welcome to get it (if only so I don't have to get up and do it for him!). Same with him- I don't rifle through his wallet for no reason, but if I need cash or whatever, I am free to get it. However, we ALWAYS tell each other what we are doing, esp. if it involves money, so the other person isn't surprised.

OP, if you told him no and he still did it...yes, you have the right to be mad![/quote]

PP: Thank you for the your kind words and congrats on 13 years; a bit of a rarity these days.  We had a trusting, loving relationship and respected each other's boundaries.  Like you and your DH, we always discussed financial matters ahead of time, not after the fact.

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