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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband works full-time, and I work part-time plus take care the majority of life's choirs. My husband has a bad habit of going in my purse, which annoys me to know end. I will go to the store and find I have no money or credit card because he has gone in my purse and taken it, etc. I find going in my purse to be an invasion of my privacy and have mentioned it multiple times. This latest time he went in my purse and took out my daughters passport. I had it in my purse because I had to take her to the doctor, and couldn't find her insurance card and the doctor needed id to take her without the card. When I got there I realized my husband took it out of my purse and we had to reschedule her appointment. I told him he would need to take her to the next appointment. He says he is busy with work and I'm being unreasonable and selfish, since I have more schedule flexibility. I feel he should do it because he frequently causes me to waste my time in the midst of my household "work". For instance trips to the store only to find I have no way to pay because he has my form of payment. I feel my time and work is not being respected. What say you?[/quote]

Ok you are in the right, but I don't think he will change, and he's like my DH in that the moment the task is over, he is onto something else--he forgets to clean up, in a sense.  My DH cannot seem to put his wallet or keys in the same spot, it doesn't matter if I make a special spot or hook for him, it doesn't work (which if you don't have a DH like this, you will find this very hard to believe).

As for the issue of him thinking you have more flexibility because you are part-time...don't even go down that path OP. Only because it won't get you anywhere; trust me, I'm a SAHM and feel like I do an 18 hr a day shift and everyone thinks I'm lying around all day.  They have no idea and no amount of trying will get them to understand.

So in the spirit of having a happy marriage, I'd work with what you have, rather than try and fix him.

What I would do is have your real purse with the stuff you need, and then have something laying around for him to grab.  Or, hide your purse so he might as well get up and find his wallet rather than trying to find your purse.

Also, don't know if you can get him to do this, but I have one credit card memorized (including the expriration date and the four digit code) so when I'm at my computer I can buy something and not have to find my purse.

Finally, OP, I don't think the issue is "invasion of privacy" and I don't think that is a persuasive argument to hit him with.  "Invasion of privacy" brings up a bunch of baggage regarding trust, and this is not your issue.  Yours is just a practical issue, kind of like kids in a bathroom--"stay off my side" so you can have order with respect to your stuff. [/quote]

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