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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I refuse to embrace the doublethink. Identify how you will, and I wish you every happiness, but as a woman, I'm not accepting anyone telling me their penis is a female sex organ. It's actually incredibly offensive to women, with all our history of oppression by men, to say things like that. [/quote]

Agreed. I find that I have limits regarding a lot of this especially in terms of what I feel comfortable teaching my children. I have to draw a line, and I leave it at a respectful distance from all of this detail. I can't expect their minds to make sense of this and am guessing they will end up teaching me along the way to find a comfortable place. One of my daugthers said to me, if you are a boy and you grow and up and you don't like being a boy, you take a pill and then you can be a lady !!! - Like it was the coolest thing in the world. I have no idea where she learned this, but I literally had nothing to say. I can't say that seems like a truthful version of what trans people go through, but there it was, a 4 yr old version.... [/quote]

As a parent of a transgender teen,  I completely understand how bewildering all this seems to most adults.

Let me offer a true story that may help other parents understand.  When our child -- whom we understood was born female and raised that way -- was about  9 or 10, a very smart young boy -- maybe about 6 at the time, often would play with our child -/ sometimes alone and sometimes with his older sister.  One day the boy's mom called and said, "I know this sounds like a stupid question and please don't be offended, but you have a daughter right? Your  child  x (female name) is a girl, right?"  We confirmed this to the Mom's relief and then she explained, "My son is insisting x is a boy.  He says X acts like a boy, talks like a boy, and is way too cool to be a girl."  This neighbor's young boy intuitively knew something we didn't  or we didn't want to know -- that x was a (transgender) boy -- I am sure the neigjbor's boy didn't know the word transgender or what it was -- he just knew our child was a boy.  That is something our D.C. didn't come out to us about until several years later.

I tell this story to illustrate a point.  This neighbor's  child made a judgement about another child's gender based  on many social interactions.  He didn't think it was necessary to see if our child had the same sex organ he had -- he was sure our child was a boy.  We have been raised to define gender based on a sex organ -- and that seems to work out to be right the vast, vast majority of the time.  But sometimes the biological brain -- which drives behavior and presumably the sense of identity -- just does not match the sex organ.  A women does not stop being a women after a hysterectomy.  A man who loses his penis to a land mine,  does not stop being a man.  Sex organs are related to gender identity,  but they are not necessarily dispositive.  I believe science will ultimately prove transgenderism is biologically based in the brain.  
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