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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]you should leave him alone when he's stressed. [/quote]

There's some merit to this. He shouldn't act out like he did, but you need to recognize when he's overwhelmed. [/quote]

Parenting 101. You're going to be overwhelmed for the first 3 years. Adults need to learn healthy coping mechanisms. [/quote]

+1[/quote]

This is bullsh*t. When my spouse is stressed, I do leave him alone. But it's not because he might grab me and push me!!! People get stressed ALL THE TIME. They don't response by grabbing people.

Please tell me if someone did this to you at work, you'd be okay with it?
"BUT he was stressed, and you didn't recognize that he was overwhelmed."
So again, are you okay with someone grabbing and shoving you at work, even though he's stressed??

I'll wait for your response PPs. [/quote]

You know he's an abuser because he's also chosen you as an acceptable target of abuse.  If he comes to work sleep deprived and stressed, does he have the ability to restrain himself from throwing things at the office?  grabbing his boss and shoving him/her?  If he can restrain himself from abusing others, then he's choosing to abuse you.  That's why you don't make excuses for him, because he does have the capacity to control his actions.  He just chooses not to.[/quote]

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