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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Guarantee you OP would spend a lot on graduate school and either not start the business or her business wouldn't take off.  Her husband probably is fully aware of this.  There are most likely things in the past OP has pursued and then quit or changed her mind.  [/quote]

+1  The question is, are we getting the full story?

For one, I find it odd that OP thinks her husband is against women because he doesn't want his daughter to buy in to female stereotypes.  I actually think he's right.  He is specifically not fixating on her looks being what gives her worth so that she doesn't grow up thinking the most important thing about her is how she looks.  I wish more parents of daughters would do that.

The fact that OP is using that as an example to prove her husband's misogyny makes me kind of doubt her credibility.  I think that is an example of recognizing that too many girls grow up with heavy pressure to be "girly girls" and heavily invested in their looks because the most attention they got as little girls was around how "pretty" they looked.

As for the schooling, I can't tell whether OP is saying he says no or he doesn't advise it.  At the end of the day, OP can do what she wants.  If she wants to enroll in school, she can do so.  The financial aspect is another story, and there really isn't enough information to get that picture.

The fact that OP's husband is completely fine with her starting a business tells me that he's not as controlling as PPs think.  He doesn't seem to have an issue with OP doing things on her own.  It sounds to me like he just thinks the going back to school part is a waste of money -- money that could potentially be used to start the business (because most businesses require some upfront investment/costs, which OP seems kind of oblivious to, which I think is why some PPs are suggesting she might be flaky).[/quote]

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