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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We moved my mom kicking and screaming. I did not like the place my brother chose but I was overruled. Now I get seriously 50 calls a day of complaining. Going home is a no go. She need medical supervision as she doesn't like medicine and it is necessary. What to do? I feel so guilty but I know she cannot live on her own. My brothers just block her calls and go on with life. I am exhausted and drive up and back once a week to see her (three hours each way).  She is not trying to make friends. Just complains. Other people in this situation and what to do? Living with me not an option for my own sanity as is moving her here.[/quote]

You need to do what your brothers do: block her calls when you need a break. Visit her when you feel you can tolerate her complaining. [/quote]
This is awful! Send mom to assisted living and then block her calls?!? Who are you people? I don't have much advice, but are there geriatric specialists in counseling that could help?[/quote]

"Who are you people?"

I know who you are. Someone who doesn't have a parent in assisted living or living with them. Your patience with dear old mom would erode to zero over the course of a single day.

If you are not in this boat, STFU, you have nothing to say, you are as bad as people with no kids giving parenting advice.[/quote]

We are the people who love their families. My mom took a sick grandmother to live with us in a small house for 4 year, and we all was taking care of her. I will take my mom or dad to live with me when they will need care. This is not even discussed. I also took care of my aunt who was not walking when I was in college. I know it is hard. But it is heartless to leave your parent or grandparent in the assisted living. [/quote]
Not everyone ages the same.
We have a family member on my husband's side of the family that was fairly "easy" to care for as she aged.  She lost mobility, and couldn't be left by herself, but she was calm.   She could hold a conversation.   
But some people when they get older get combative.   They will literally hit their caregivers, scream, and have outbursts.

Are you really saying that when your relatives get older, both you and your spouse will quit your jobs so you can take on 24/7 care of the relative?  That you will subject your children to being screamed at and having objects thrown at them?[/quote]

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