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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here and apparently lurking inside my kind, sweet, soft spoken, go with the flow DH is a bit of a hardass.  Just talked to him and we're all straightened out for now at least.  He called his mom and said he was cancelling the trip since it was going to be a problem for me to breastfeed at her house (told her he hadn't even brought it up with me because it wasn't going to happen, which is a fib but he wanted to leave me out of it).  She backtracked and said I can nurse at her house, no problem, she just thought I'd want a break from breastfeeding for the weekend.  At this point, I don't know if that's true (she didn't breastfeed so she could honestly just not know that you can't take a weekend off from breastfeeding) or if her initial reason of the niece and nephews is true or if it's all just a cover for her dislike of breastfeeding.  Either way, DH told her not to even bring it up with me while we are there so it shouldn't be a topic for discussion.  If it becomes an issue, we can just bail and head back to the hotel as needed.  We're both kind of wishing he hadn't told me as now I'll be a bit on edge all weekend when I have to feed DD but I guess it's probably better I know, forewarned is forearmed and all that.[/quote]

Your MIL doesn't want to "give you a break from breastfeeding." She doesn't want YOU feeding your own child. The niece/nephew thing is an absolutely transparent excuse.

I'm glad your husband worked it out. My initial answer was going to be to suggest canceling the trip because it's absolutely ridiculous that she thinks it's any of her business what you feed your child. In her house, sure, if she would prefer you go into another room, that's reasonable, but forbidding you from doing that "IN HER HOUSE" is crazy.[/quote]

She wants to give you a break from the feedings by giving the baby a bottle herself.  When I had just one baby I never understood that, but now that I have bfed twins, I totally get it--it was relentless and sometimes I really did want a break.  She is probably remembering the feeding grind from dealing with her own.  Needless to say, you don't have to allow it.[/quote]

PP here.

Banning the OP from breastfeeding in her house for the entire weekend, to prevent the niece and nephew from seeing, is a pretty far cry from remembering one's own exhausting experience and wanting to help. It sounds like this MIL just doesn't approve of breastfeeding in general.[/quote]

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