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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have an almost one-year old baby niece who I adore. However, DH couldn't care less about her. He doesn't hold her or hug her when near her. He got mad at me the other day while we were out shopping at Macy's and I put a onesie at the register for her when he was paying. My family is very important to me and I'm very close with them, [b]I see my family probably 2-3 times a week and talk to them often on the phone.[/b] When I show him pictures of her he may smile but doesn't really seem to care. DH comes over to my parents house maybe once a week and seems to enjoy himself but [b]he doesn't seem to get nearly as excited as I do[/b] ...

I honestly feel embarrassed when i'm holding my niece and DH just kind of looks the other way, he makes excuses for not wanting to hold her.[b] Is there any way to make him more engaged?[/b] I feel as if he's coming off as rude to my family.

We don't have kids yet. I've asked him about it and got upset because I felt like he just didn't care about my family. He said he would be more interested in his own children - not other peoples.[b] I don't know if this is acceptable to me or not [/b]...[/quote]
You're very close with your family, and that's great, but it's your family, not DH's. Why would he be as excited as you are?

Have you talked about how much time you spend with your family without DH? You might want to invest more time in your marriage, instead of resenting DH for not being obsessed with your family and trying to change him.

It's perfectly normal to not be super into other people's kids. If that isn't "acceptable" to you, then you should get into counseling before you even think about having children. If you can't accept your DH as an independent person with legitimate feelings and perspectives of his own (especially when they differ from yours!), you're going to have a very hard time staying married and raising children together.[/quote]

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