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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here: Does he have any right to be upset when I ask him to buy things for my niece? When we were shopping the other day, he was shopping for himself and while he was at the register I added two more items for her. He got mad at me afterwards. The same thing happened last week while we were at the grocery store. I felt a little attacked.[/quote]

If money is an issue, then he definitely has a reason to be upset. You feel attacked?  How much money are you earning, if you are earning plenty and using that, then spend the money.  Quite frankly, he would have no reason to get upset if money was not an issue, but it clearly must be.[/quote]

Male here (who pays the lion share of expenses in our relationship w/ wife in grad school, and is generally happy to do so)--sometimes purchases like this are kind of a matter of principle.  We are comfortable but not rolling in dough...we have everything we need, and most things we want (within reason...both drive 10+ y/o cars, kitchen isn't updated etc.).  If DW says "I was thinking we should get that new blender for our smoothies" sometimes I'll say back in jest "Keep saving your pennies and we can get it in a few months."  It's not that we can't afford it, it's that it's not really a necessity and we don't need it right now, and I don't feel like dropping $150 bucks on the blender.

Before going shopping he may have said to himself "I'm going to get a couple of things for me, hopefully spending under $100" and then the two baby items sprung on at the register pushed the total to $130.  As a matter of principle, that could be annoying.  Also, you've referenced two of these events in the last two weeks (grocery store and shopping for himself)...he may just be getting annoying about things frequently getting sprung on him at the register.[/quote]

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