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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Re: the touching and crossing boundaries, I think some of this can be contextual.

My DH and I were 4 hours into an airplane ride and my son started getting air sick.  It was super stressful because DS was sobbing and obviously having a hard time, and while DH was holding the airsick bag for my son, I tried to give him a sympathetic rub on the back.  He snapped at me and pulled away.

I never thought anything of it past that moment.  It was obviously a very stressful situation and he didn't want to be touched in that way.  He's incredibly affectionate otherwise, and has never had a response like that in the past.

I never once got angry about it or thought we needed family counseling.  Sometimes a stressful situation is just that.  We're not our best, and we don't always have the reserves to deal with things patiently and perfectly.  [/quote]

But did your DH demand an apology from you the next day for touching him without permission?  OP's husband seems a bit more unhinged than just "sometimes we need space and don't handle it perfectly," which I agree is true for everyone.[/quote]

No, because after he pulled away I would have been mean or crazy I didn't try to touch him again.  He had clearly indicated he didn't want to be touched in that moment.

In the OP's case, the apology was for not respecting his wishes, not for the original touch.[/quote]

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