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 [Post New]12/25/2016 07:11     Subject: Has your life turned out the way that you wanted?  [Up]
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I never had a vision of my life going in a particular direction. It was more important for me to do what I liked, and whatever direction came from that was OK.

That's worked out pretty well. In hindsight (I'm 60 now) I would have 1) been a little less wasteful with money, and 2) been a better networker in my profession when things were good, which would have helped me more when things are not so good.
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[Post New]12/25/2016 07:20     Subject: Has your life turned out the way that you wanted?  [Up]
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Of course luck plays into it. But by luck, I go by the definition I heard from Oprah once: preparation meeting opportunity. So my advice is to be prepared for the opportunities you want. If you want a partner that is kind, adorng and confident, then prepare yourself to be the person who that partner is attracted to. Work on being kind and confident. Treat yourself well, meaning don't put up with nonsense or disrespect.

I copied that and put it on a handy place on my computer. Thank you. A great message for the New Year.
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[Post New]12/25/2016 07:22     Subject: Has your life turned out the way that you wanted?  [Up]
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PP here, sorry, didn't realize this was the fifty and over forum!

The Fifty and Over Council will meet and I expect give you a pass. LOL
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[Post New]12/25/2016 11:02     Subject: Has your life turned out the way that you wanted?  [Up]
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Nearing 60. Great kid, terrible marriage (separated), mediocre career. Obsessed with making my 60s the best decade of my life by going all out.

My mom's life imploded when in her late 50s (career and relationships in the toilet, homeless, bankrupt, lost pretty much everything you can lose, etc.). She moved, changed careers, and began again. This time she did what she loved, lived in a place she loved, and saved like crazy. She consciously decided to set aside romantic relationships and just focused on being happy on her own. It took a few years, but eventually her new career took off, she found a great apartment in a wonderful town, made a ton of friends, traveled the world, and found great meaning and joy volunteering with a local theater company. Without a doubt, the last 20 years were the happiest of her life. Losing everything was the best thing that ever happened to her.

You can do it too, pp. Just focus on what makes you happy and do that.

Thanks for posting this. As a likely widow-to-be at age 50, I need all the stories like this I can hear.

If this thread had gone up six months ago, I would have posted the same as many of you--great life, financially secure, great marriage, doing everything that I/we want.

And then my husband got a CT scan for some abdominal pain, and is now six months into Stage 4 cancer.

If I may be a downer--everything is fine until it isn't.

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So sorry you are going through this PP. My dad went through something similar when my mom, who was his world, died of cancer at 58. He remarried to a lovely woman whose husband died around the same time, and they have both been very happy for the past 15 years. They have a different relationship than my parents did, but compliment each other well, and my step-mom is the beloved grandmother of 17 now (5 from her kids, 12 from my side). The love that surrounds her is pretty incredible and something she never anticipated when she was going through her first husbands illness.[/quote]

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