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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think there are a ton of entitled millennials here picking apart every little slight they perceive from their parents. There are tons of online support groups discussing this  current estrangement phenomenon......grandparents being cut off for the stupidest things.

OP, if you want real advice, you will have to explain, otherwise how can you actually expect advIce. The fact that you have blind supporters here only reinforces the syndrome of "My Mom doesn't get me  and I'm gonna punish her."

You openly admit you had some argument or something when she was at your house, yet you are dumbfounded that she felt that you snapped at her. You probably DID! In fact, you know you did,  but it's her behavior that is on trial and you are ACTUALLY TALKING ABOUT CUTTING HER ENTIRELY OUT IF YOUR KIDS' LIFE. For what? You are engaging in revenge tactics. That's a clue more about you than her.

If you do that...it's huge. There better be a really good reason such as drug addiction, sexual divorce, physical...real physical abuse,  serious mental illness that is untreated for something so severe. It's cruel and life changing. And you are also punishing your kids.

Check yourself...and try again. Are you in a negative pattern with her? Is there something you are resentful about? Counseling? Therapy?

Getting blind support from a forum where no one knows you or  your Mom is immature.
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Not OP, but I am not a millenial. I'm 50, unless that qualifies!

In fact, I doubt as many millenials have these problems, younger parents tend to be a bit more flexible unless they grew up poor or without much emotional support.

I did not cut off contact. Called her biweekly and saw Mom about 3 times a year. My stress levels went through the roof because she became more emotionally abusive as she became older. The worst was when she was ill and near death. On the plus side, as a result I don't miss her as much as most people would miss their mother. Just feel very sad when I see other mothers and daughters getting along. I know I gave it a shot.

OP, you could go very low contact (much lower than I did) and give it a shot. If she is abusive, therapy or confronting her is not going to help. You will be blamed instead. Best to taper contact off to the the level you want, see how your mom reacts, and take it from there.

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