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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. Thanks for the perpectives.  Especially the thoughtful one noted previously.

I do want my husband to be happy in job - which is why I've supported him doing so for so long. But right now my focus has shifted from him having a job he loves to our kids being able to go to good/decent public schoolsand to be able to host grandparents / siblings from out of state, hosting our own holidays, building equity, belonging to a community where people stick around   I'm willing to move out of this expensive area to realize that since [b]after 10 years we haven't figured out how to make it work[/b]. Both jobs are downtown w tough commutes to cheaper areas.

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Have you worked with a financial planner as a PP suggested?  There's no reason after 10 years you can't have a SFH in a decent school district and a reasonable commute.  You either haven't been financially prudent or you have unrealistic expectations regarding school/commute - or both.

Here's a SFH in the Rose Hill area.  My DH grew up in the area and our kids go to Rose Hill.  Despite being a Title 1 school are kids are getting an excellent education - and those 'in district' are selected first for the Spanish immersion program there.  https://www.zillow.com/homes/for_sale/Rose-Hill-VA/pmf,pf_pt/house,land_type/51922222_zpid/20241_rid/3-_beds/globalrelevanceex_sort/38.823861,-77.048836,38.746519,-77.166081_rect/12_zm/

BTW - I've always out earned my DH.  He's definitely an under achiever but he brings a lot of other things to the table that I appreciate. Our combined income is @$150K/year.  We've got 3 kids, 2 with SN (and all the accompanying therapies) and a SFH.  I'm a fed and work downtown.  We're 'poor' by DCUM standards but life comfortably within our means, save for retirement and contribute to our kids' college funds.[/quote]

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