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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Either they are mentally ill and abusive or "good grandparents." You can't have it both ways. This fad of cutting yourself off from the "toxic" family that raised and educated you is pure entitlement. Grow up.
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I half wonder if you are either (a) someone toxic who has been cut off and is bitter or (b) someone who has kept toxic people in her life and feels the need to shame others for not putting up with that in order to validate her own decision to suffer through.

Shaming people who want to cut ties with abusers is pretty despicable.  Abuse isn't always physical.

I'm not saying OP should or should not cut her mother out of her life.  I'm saying that no one should keep a toxic person in his/her life just because that person is a parent (or a sibling or a relative).

The key is that it shouldn't be about revenge or anger or punishment.  You aren't trying to punish the person.  It should be about establishing the boundaries you need to live a healthy life.

Most people who cut a parent out of his or her life isn't doing it to punish the parent.  They're doing it to stay sane.  They're doing it so that they themselves can be their best.  [/quote]

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