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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There's this organization: https://www.facebook.com/secondchanceadoptions/

They are constantly looking for adoptive parents for children in the age range you describe. They are almost all physically healthy.[/quote]

That is adoption rehoming and should be illegal.  Basically families who adopted are offloading the kids as they don't feel like being a parent anymore.  They may be physically health but have other issues, such as mental health/behavioral.  They will have even more when they are given away and placed with another family.   Some may be ok, but many of them will be traumatized for life.  Same on those "parents."[/quote]

OK, but these are legal adoptions and this organization is looking for better homes for these kids. The do home studies and all the rest. They do not do the "transfer of guardianship" crap you read about with "underground" rehoming.

There is no reason these kids should be in worse mental health than foster kids.

It is actually the case that some kids can't bond with the first family that adopts them, but then do better with someone else. Even kids have expectations that can't be met, and they are more realistic with another family.

So, if "rehoming" becomes illegal, then we just have more kids in foster care?[/quote]

These kids will have far more trauma as many are foster kids or international adoptions.  They have been adopted once, many have been in foster care and no stability and are again being given away.  Often it is the family who cannot bond as the kids are older and can't be molded into their perfect child.  If you read through the profiles many are Evangelicals or other Christians who "rescued" these kids only for them not to be the kids they imagined so they get rid of them.  Its sad because if you read the profiles you see they are trying to put them into the same kind of family, the exact ones that didn't work.  Some look neglected if you look at the teeth and other things and were just dressed up for pictures.  Many will want to adopt these kids for the money as you read in the notes which ones come with money and which do not.[/quote]

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