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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You should have denied it all.[/quote]
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Never disclosed all of your business to a man.  [b]Some men can't handle the sexual history of women.  Many are intimidated by more experienced women[/b].   Even the most liberal and open minded man will get his ego crushed if you disclosed certain information to him.  Unfortunately, there is still a double standard in society regarding women and sex.  Keep your past in the past.  It serves no good to share your past with others including your women friends.  Quite a few Americans in general are very prudish and close-minded when it comes to all things regarding the sexuality of women.  Don't ever mistake that a woman friend has your best interests in heart when you disclosed personal sexual information about yourself.  They will always used it to their advantage to sabotage you.  Lesson learned keep your business to yourself always.  However, your husband sounds insecure or maybe jealous that you're more experienced than him.  Some men like to think that they have the upper hand in the sexual department.                [/quote]

OK but for those men, they should be able to make a fully informed choice before making a lifelong commitment.  Many men would decline to make such a commitment to a woman with an "adventurous" sexual history and so it's their right to know beforehand.

Whether or not a woman wants to factor that into her sex life (that a future mate may pass) is entirely up to her.  Risk - reward.

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People have a right to make a choice for themselves - which can't happen if the other person isn't honest. It's not a boundary issue - and it's easy to say one shouldn't care about X, Y, and Z. But, the reality is, each person has a right to make that decision for themselves. You should have told him about your past so that he can make a decision that is best for his life.

No one wants to feel like they married person A and come to find out, they are person B.[/quote]

Just so you know, I pity sad sack women like you and the PP who have such obvious issues with other women's premarital sex lives. It has nothing to do with them and everything to do with your parochialism.  Decent adults don't give a damn about that, ever.[/quote]

I'm not sure where you got that I have a problem with women's premarital sex lives. I was saying that people have a right to know about the other person so that they can make their own decisions vs. being blindsided by something after you are already married.

Would we be having the same conversation if we were talking about someone who hid their financial problems, a child from a previous relationship, a criminal record, etc?

Probably not - but you idiots have to find something in order to tag your crazy feminist agendas to.[/quote]

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