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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here again -- maybe my DH (or life) is different from many here?  DH works in the city and has happy hours/work dinners about twice a week -- I don't have that kind of job, and I don't work in the city.  I also get up with DS 4 mornings a week so DH can train for a bike race in the mornings.  We both come home (when he's not out) for evenings with DS.  If it's "my" turn, he'll go downstairs and watch TV, while I put DS to bed and cook us dinner.  If it's "his" turn, I'll just start cooking.  On the weekends, he bikes each day for several hours, and then often hangs out with the biking guys at a bar for a couple hours before coming home.  I'm home alone for most weekend days, and then we have friends come over at night.   Is this so unusual?[/quote]

If you are doing bath and bedtime, your DH should be fixing dinner.  That's how we did it in our house. One of us cooked while the other took care of DC (now we all eat together so not so much an issue, but we still trade off doing dishes/cleaning up and bath/bed!)  I agree that too often we as women are expected to just suck it up and deal.  Talk with your DH and say if the schedule is too rigid, what does he suggest that you do in order to insure an equal division of kid/house duty and free time?  It sounds like your DH goes out with his friends quite a bit.  What if you went out on a week night with your girl friends once in a while?  My DH is great about giving me time to myself when I need it so we've never had to come up with a "schedule".  DD is also three so is more self sufficient and can play by herself for short periods of time.  We have another one on the way and I know I'm going to have to get used to not having ANY free time again. . .sigh. . .[/quote]

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