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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Also - what specific reasons has he given for not wanting another?[/quote]

Well our youngest is 4.5. She can dress herself now, feed herself, she's obviously potty trained, she STTN. We like to travel and that's much easier now. We can go out to eat and it's easy. We can sleep in a bit on the weekends because they entertain each other in the mornings, so that's nice. I concede that all of that is true and it IS nice. I understand where he's coming from with that.

However, like I tell him, it's really only two years that things are hard. Two years in the grand scheme of a long life is nothing. We'll be back here again before he knows it. It's a very short term sacrifice for long term gain.[/quote]

What gain is that? You're bringing in another burden. That's more $, another college education, and lost time. It means fewer child-free years on the back end.

I think you're trying to postpone returning to work.[/quote]

Um the gain of another person to love? Another person to round out our family who will be our children's sibling for the rest of their lives? I don't look at it in financial terms, I think that is silly. I don't look at our existing children and add up what they cost us.

I'm not postponing returning to work. That has nothing to do with this. It's a separate issue but he doesn't really want me to work anyway (work travel).[/quote]

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