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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Based on OP's updates I suggest you try those Asian girls for white guy sites.[/quote]

See, this is why you can't be honest on this site. I laid out a very clear case that I'm open to dating from any background where the individual is:

-Highly ambitious and educated
[b]-Dark features (hair/eyes)
-Exceptionally petite[/b]
-A good person with good values

It just so happens that many Asian Americans fit that bill. I'm not biased in the slightest if you introduced me to a Cuban woman who fit that bill, I'd jump in a heartbeat to date her. But, since only 1/15 or so of my dates are hitting the mark already and they tend to be Asian it is what it is.[/quote]

To me this shouldn't be a criteria for any man or women in their mid 30s dating and looking for marriage.   I think you are seeling yourself short by being so narrow in focus.  The person who could be your best match for marriage could meet those things but they could look wildly different.

I'll use myself as an example for the longest time my  "type" was  dark hair, blue eyes, fair skinned, and over 6'2".  The guy I married is  caramel skinned, 5'8" with dark hair and brown eyes, he brought something to the table the others didn't. Things I couldn't see when I was being so narrowly focused. I'm lucky I had friends to talk sense to me when I was 30.

Real true married life is hard as shit and what color eyes your spouse has doesn't mean that much when your baby is sick in the hospital or you just lost your job.[/quote]

I understand your perspective PP, and it's fair. But I've been in relationships before where I settled too much on my physical preferences and it was difficult for me to ever feel satisfied. I don't want to put someone in that position. The other person deserves to have their long term partner really jazzed to be with them (both physically, emotionally, and beyond). [/quote]

I think if you can only be invested emotionally in your partner if they look a certain way -marriage is not for you.
Your wife  even if she's the Asian you want will not look at 45 and 50 as she did at 27. She won't look as she did at 33 as she did at 27  if she has a couple of kids.
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I don't think I want children. But that's beside the point. Of course she'll look differently. So will I. Who said anything about never looking differently. But that has nothing to do with attraction and chemistry for the next 10-15 years. Or 20. [/quote]

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