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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Transparency is good in theory but so easy to avoid. Here honey, here is my computer and all my passwords. Except for that new email account I just opened that you don't know about so never think to look for.

In the end you either trust or you don't.[/quote]

Yup. As I say to my husband, who says he's transparent now--we both know how easy it is to open more accounts, have a burner phone, etc etc etc. You can pretend to be transparent, and I won't know. I'm not going to waste my time checking up on you, either. So go through the motions and treat me right, and I will attempt to live without trust. [/quote]

Or be happy with yourself and kids..hoping he slips on a banana peel. After something like that I wouldn't care about him even if I stayed. Many stay because of kids and financial realities.[/quote]

Well, it's been three years now, and we're still working on it every day. I don't think I'll ever trust him again, but I live with it, for now. It would be easier for me to leave, but I don't have the financial means, and I wouldn't trust him with the kids during visitation. I'm very positive about things, as much as I can be, and spend these years focusing on working on myself, raising the kids, and treating him and myself with kindness and compassion. We'll see how it goes.[/quote]

The big one is not knowing who they will have around your kids.  Another woman whose kids have problems, or she is a big problem. I've seen some pretty big messes with divorced friends.  Sad for the kids all the way around.  [/quote]

Bingo. That was one of the things I meant about not trusting him with the kids. He wasn't necessarily crushing on and getting responses from nice women. We're talking scary sociopaths and raging personality disorders. Yeah, they were definitely a change from what he had at home. [/quote]

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