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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My MIL did that and it (along with lots of other things) annoyed me to no end.

With three kids it really added up when she was buying 5-10 gifts each for Christmas and bdays.

I bit my tongue and just graciously thanked her, even as I bitched to husband later after the kids went to bed.

But in front of the kids it was always graciousness and appreciation.

I am so glad I handled it this way instead of choosing to make this a hill worth fighting over and damaging an important relationship over cheap plastic crap.

Over recent years, my aging inlaws have been dealing with increasing health issues, to the point that the past few gift giving events have decreased in quantity.  This past Christmas, my kids skyped with grandparents and opened truly minimal Christmas gifts. They were enthusiastic and grateful, because that is how we always behaved when given a gift. It did not matter that one received sweatpants and the other a couple packs of pokemon cards instead of the piles of presents they were used to.

And more importantly, the grandparents got to experience the joy of giving to gracious recipients, whether it was a $10.00 Target T or piles of licensed crap.

Ask yourself this OP, is making a doting grandparent feel bad and potentially damaging a close family relationship worth it over a bunch of cheap crap that you can easily filter out once it is "broken" or "lost"?  How important is thia battle of stuff to you?  What kind of recipients do you want to teach your kids to be? The kind that intuitively know how to be gracious and appreciative no matter what the gift? Or the kind of person that only wants what they want, and is okay with making someone feel bad for giving the wrong thing?[/quote]

This is great. You bitch about what you have until it is gone.

If MIL was NOT involved in the kids lives or NOT giving gifts, there would be a post about how horrible she was. People just need to find something to bitch about and it is a shame.

So ungrateful.[/quote]

Yeah, no.  In my case, my ILs are buying crap for my 1 year old DC.  She's at least six months away from expressing polite gratitude, which of course I demonstrate/will teach her.  But in the meantime, the constant piles of cheap s**t are insane.  I would really and truly rather they not spend their money...or failing that, if they can't help themselves, just put it into her 529.  Instead, I have to find space for (I kid you not) stuff like toxic-looking Made in China toys for ages 3 and up; [b]THROW AWAY [/b]kick pads for the back of our front car seats, [b]GIVE TO FRIEND OR COWORKER WITH OLDER KIDS [/b]when DC will be in a rear-facing seat for YEARS; various glass keepsake boxes (for first tooth, etc.); [b]THROW AWAY [/b]and on and on.  And that's not to mention all the tacky, non-returnable KMart clothing [b]DONATE [/b](no seriously, they don't take returns, can't even exchange for something like diapers).  Obviously I'm not going to say anything to them, but I will bitch in an anonymous forum![/quote]

Solved your problem for you.[/quote]

Do you also have a brilliant response for MIL and SIL when they ask about the whereabouts of their gifts?  Thanks.[/quote]
This! I'd love to throw it all away! Inevitably, they ask about it! Either to me, or my child. [/quote]

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