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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I understand op. I'm so sorry. It's hard because when two high achievers marry and have kids there is an assumption those kids will follow the parents. It's painful to let go of and it's painful to be reminded of it. We all want as a basic uniting idea to know that our kids will be alright without us at the very least. And it's so scary not to know if that is possible.

All of the kids of my colleagues are choosing between amazing colleges also. My husband and I are both ivy educated lawyers. I dont know if my son will ever be mainstreamed, and he has behavioral issues which are the hardest to deal with and are ostracizing. I feel lonely because I can't contribute to conversations my friends have about their typical kids. Even though I have a nt child I feel somehow out of the club. I went to a shower the other day and there was a game re advice to new moms and[i] [b]I almost cried because I just felt like what did I know I did it all wrong[/b][/i]. I'm only sharing this to let you know I understand and I deeply empathize. It's painful and it's scary and uncertain. There is also a reward that parents get - I know mine did - of seeing their hard work or their interpretation of their hard work! Culminating in a happy accomplished child.  I'm sure you're doing an amazing job. [/quote]

My heart just broke for you PP, as its so painfully clear that you're too still in the grieving & acceptance stage as well.
Some people can stay in grief & accepting for years without realizing it, loving every day like they just received the diagnosis & they struggle to move forward.  I've been there and I know what a lonely, scary, guilt ridden place it is to be. 
I wish i could give you a giant hug right now... have you spoken to anyone about your feelings? ((( hugs to you )))[/quote]

*living. 
Also I forgot to mention to you PP & listen closely, ok??

YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG, LET ALONE "ALL" OF OUT WRONG!

SN kids don't come with a manual or handbook, we do the best with what we've got & just reading your post it sounds as if your SN child is very lucky to have you as a momma. :)
(((( hugs))))

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