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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dear OP,

It sounds like you're saying this is especially painful to you because there's a real mismatch between how you see yourself and what you value in yourself, and what your DD is capable of.  I do understand that and I see how it would be hard to feel a connection in those circumstances.  I'm so sorry.  I know other parents experience it, too, but there's such a stigma around talking about it.

If you're up for another book suggestion, Andrew Solomon wrote "Far from the Tree."  It's about parenting a child who is different from the parent in a way that significant to the parent.  It's a long book but very engaging and well-written, so not a slog.  You might recognize some of yourself in some of the profiles.[/quote]

+1, I was going to recognize this book as well and I also want to say that this poster's insight about the struggles is spot on.  OP, you aren't being a snob, but you value certain attributes in yourself as the core of your identity more than others do, and it's thus particularly hard to accept that your child can't share those.  I feel for you and want to say that you should not feel ashamed of having these feelings and while most posters haven't made you feel that way, I want to be another voice saying that you should ignore those that do.  I wish the best for you and I hope you've gained something by posting.  I know it is tough to write down and the things you describe are also just infinitely tougher to live.  [/quote]

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