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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH often makes critical comments- for example, he'll keep asking me for days why I forgot a simple task like washing a cup out, or if we have guests over, once they leave he'll immediately point out the things I did wrong. He never says things in a harsh tone, and it's not overtly critical, but it wears me down.

I've asked him to stop and he won't. We've tried counseling and it helped some, but it's still an almost daily occurance. I'm certain he's not going to change and I won't separate/divorce because we have kids. And it's not that I'm totally absent minded and forget to do everything; he just expects absolute perfection, which I can't do. So I need to figure out how to deal with my reaction or else I'm going to go bonkers.

Any advice on how to handle this? I know it's pretty benign, but being asked daily about something I did a week ago is draining. [/quote]

It's not benign my friend.  I hear you've tried counseling. If you don't get much from one counselor, I'd highly recommend looking around for another counselor.  Try to focus on the good things in him like the fact that he's not harsh or overly critical.  Speak the truth to him in a soft tone with calm, loving body language by gently telling him how this makes you feel.  Say, "I feel pressured, worn out, overwhelmed, etc...." Avoid saying things like, "You're driving me nuts with your incessant tasks...." The more you practice doing this, you will see positive change.  I did it with my husband about 5 years ago, despite a deeply emotional affair he was having with another woman.  Thankfully, through my faith and dependence on God, our marriage was healed!  He can and will do the same for you if you give it all over to Him! here's a helpful article and video: http://bit.ly/2kQFqDQ[/quote]

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