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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Young men must love knowing that a woman would not be dating him but for his paycheck. You have my sympathy.[/quote]
I knew my paycheck certainly didn't hurt when I was dating. 
I didn't care one way or the other, but DW wanted to be a SAHM when we had children and I was ok with it. We talked about it before we became engaged. Shouldn't have been surprised she was a super smart book worm that never seemed to find a job she liked. Just don't give up sex once the children come along. Then you have a resentful husband that doesn't feel appreciated when your children are off at school and you sit around all day and then never want sex. Its hard work being a SAHM until the children go to school sort of early retirement [/quote]

As a woman, my paycheck certainly didn't hurt while we were dating, either. We also had talked about having a SAHM as both of us grew up with one. I quit when I had my first 10 years ago. My 3 kids are all in elementary school ~ and luckily my husband WAH so he knows that I don't "sit around all day". I mean, somedays, like Monday, when I had two home with strep I actually did sit around all day, barring the pediatricians office. Other days its busy.

It is like early retirement though. This is always something I find interesting, it seems like a race to talk about who is retiring earliest on this board ~ obviously most people are pining for retirement. Why blame a SAHM who could do what you want to do, but 20 years earlier? I'm well rested, well exercised, and I have a well developed infrastructure of friends, which will serve us well when he retires. As to sex, well, don't you think that when sex dies in a marriage it could be for LOTS of other reasons than a SAHM "sitting around all day"? I'm sure lots of WOH families also deal with sex issues because they are both so tired from working/kid pick up/harried dinner etc. I guess we both agree that sex in the marriage is very important, though I'd apply it across the board.

(Yes I know he could leave the kids and I. I have my own financial means which I/we could actually retire on now). We choose not to. [/quote]

Why blame a SAHM? It's pure jealousy, you know that. And I'm a WOHM who is happy to WOH.[/quote]

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