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[quote=Anonymous]There are a lot of average kids that appear above average due to the money/involvement they get from their parents.  Propping children up can only go on for so long.  It's important to raise a child that is self-reliant, motivated and driven by their own goals.  Many parents hire tutors in elementary school to ensure their DCs have top grades and extra coaching/specialized camps so their DC will be immediately and consistenly "successful" in their sport(s) and ECs.  Parents intervene directly with teachers when their child gets an average grade and work the coaches to ensure their child gets more playing time/extra-attention, etc.

It's important to teach our kids how to advocate for themselves, define their own goals, and work to achieve them.  That may look like lazy parenting on the surface.  Many of my HS DC's peers have no self-reliance and I worry about what that will mean when they leave for college.   As a parent with resources, it's hard to find the right level of support to give.  Don't assume parents are lazy - they may be letting their child "fail" by being mediocre for awhile so the DC can become more self-motivated and develop some personal goals.

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