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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He's a child, not an investment.  The 'payoff' is that you get to raise a great kid and spend time with the kid doing things that he loves.  You hopefully have some nice memories of spending time together.
Most of us have spent a lot of time at swim meets and our kids aren't going to the Olympics.  I spent a lot of time making my kids practice the piano, and no one is going to Carnegie Hall.
I am just happy to have the money and time to be able to give my kids these experiences.  We enjoy being the kid of family that is active and creative.  That is the only pay off.
Maybe the OP needs to get together with the poster who refers to some colleges as 'third tier shitholes' or whatever the phrase is, because they both seem to be missing the point.  It's a privilege to raise kids, to be able to give them things, and to be able to enjoy having a family life.  They're not race horses, they're children.  If you wanted race horses, you should have purchased race horses.[/quote]

Aren't these two phrases contradictory:  "I spent a lot of time making my kids practice the piano" vs. "It's a privilege to raise kids, to be able to give them things, and to be able to enjoy having a family life."

I don't force my kids to practice anything.  Maybe I should, but that seemed to undermine my value in being "able to enjoy having a family life".  Am I missing something?  See I would love to force my kids to practice an instrument as I love to hear them play, but it seemed like forcing them was just causing strife so I didn't do it.[/quote]

Actually I have significant experience with racehorses and the biggest hidden factor in racing success is "heart" or a horse that has a desire to win.  Plenty of talented, fast horses get retired because they have no real desire to win.  A fast horse that is happier cantering along in the pack is not going to be competitive.

In my view kid here has proven his long-term interest in two areas, they just aren't the ones OP prefers.  You can't make a racehorse be a successful racehorse if it doesn't want to run-- your best bet is to try a different sport.  It might make a lovely, happy, successful jumper or trail horse or even lesson horse. The same principles apply to kids. OP needs to be happy she got a kid who has proven interest in some very solid hobbies and enjoy her kid for who he is.  And support him in his non-competitive but still eminently respectable endeavors.

A man that loves riding horses, in competition or not, is a rare and valuable asset.  Nurture that![/quote]

NP here to tell the PP that I know nothing about horses but I love your analogy.  Thank you![/quote]

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