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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm the PP. The party is at her house. No additional cost and about 4 people are coming so far. She likes for the moms to hang out during the party. She is a single mom so usually the dads don't come. We are family friends-not school friends. My younger daughter feels quite excluded for that reason. Like I said, my girls have separate friends and I do the arrange another play date thing with all of those people regularly. This feels like a personal dig to her. As for whether the birthday girl doesn't want to invite her: 1) my younger daughter is just about the most likeable kid on earth and I know they get along; and 2) in a similar situation I would include the younger child if I were the mom and tell my birthday child that was the right thing to do because we are family friends. That is one of the reasons my kids are thoughtful and kind-they are not encouraged to exclude whomever nor do I do the same in situations like this. That's also why my older daughter feels ambivalent about going-she doesn't want to exclude her sister. That thought would never occur to her for a classmate's party. [/quote]

OP here. One of our guests is the son of my good friend. He is the middle child. I have always included her other two children for the past 6 years. This is the first time I am requesting no siblings. She totally understands and is not offended in the least. I am hanging out with her this weekend without kids. Next weekend, we are hanging out with all the kids. During winter break, the entire family got together including dads. I really don't think she thinks I am trying to exclude her other children who are very close to my children.

I think you are odd to take such offense to a birthday party. [/quote]

I'm sure you're not trying to exclude them and you are not acting as though you are. This friend's behavior has been truly bizarre in this regard for a couple of years towards multiple people, and this just kind of feels like the last straw. She tends to loudly exclude kids and adults in a kind of pathetic way. Hoping she would rise above her nature, I asked her as a favor to please include both in this small neighborhood house party (incidentally after I had done an enormous favor for her and the child). Apparently the excluding was just too important. [/quote]

How old are your girls?

If you already asked and she already said no, then just don't go. I don't think you should think your daughters are always a package deal. Twin parents don't even think that way.

My best friend and her sister are 11 months apart. They had completely different friends growing up.[/quote]

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