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[quote=Anonymous]He is who he is -- you can't change him now as a senior in HS. You know this. Reality is -- you and your DH and parents/inlaws are ivy grads. You know if you wanted to groom him to be an ivy/top school type of kid, that doesn't start in 12th grade -- that starts by middle school at the latest. You didn't do that for whatever reason -- you didn't want to; his happiness; you thought your friends weren't doing that and now it turns out they are, whatever. A B student in the top 30% of his class only has some many options (not to say there aren't options, but not the same as the kids who are top 1% and straight A). Most of those types of kids go to state flagship u and find a job. Yours chooses not to do that instead focusing on a specific career that is only attainable if he goes to a maritime school, not flagship u. Be thankful he's at least pursuing something that'll grant him a career -- unlike half the people out there who will be majoring in English, taking up whatever job they can find in 4 yrs, and will suddenly be 30 and realize, they never intended to make a career in the insurance industry, it was just who was hiring on their campus.

As for the comments from grandparents, friends etc. -- you need to learn to accept them. The way the hierarchy stands -- bankers, biglaw, doctors -- that is what people know bc that is where the money is at traditionally. All other paths -- people will deem them "interesting" while wonder WTH is going on in your home to lead him there instead of a "traditional" profession. But you chose to raise him this way, so what choice is there now but to accept it?[/quote]

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