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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Enough with the low T. It's not that.

Men...and especially young men...need to ejaculate. They can't go six months or a year without ejaculating. Period.

Your husband IS ejaculating...but not with you. So you need to find out if he's masturbating to porn or cheating. It's one or the other...even if it's not happening regularly. [/quote]

This is accurate.  Low drive men still want to have sex a few times a month.  If he was only initiating once a week, I would say he is bored or low drive but within the range of normal.  None in a year, he is probably gay or has some weird issues with women.  I bet he is gay.[/quote]

OP here, sorry guys but no i think you are wrong. [b]No porn, I checked is history[/b], I tried to surprise him when he was watching something late at night. Nothing. And we talked about it , I have nothing against porn but he is not particularly into it. Maybe he does masturbate in the shower, I hope so actually, but I would be very very surprised if it was frequent (with 2 young kids as all parents know we have very few minutes unaccounted for).

And again I don't think he is gay, i am not a naive innocent girl, i know a lot of gay people, I have a lot of bisexual friends, I consider myself boredline bisexual, but my husband is not attracted to men. He doesn't come from type of background or family where it would make sense to be closeted to that level. we talked openly about bisexual tendency, he clearly expressed zero interest and I believe him. Believe it or not He is a very honest, transparent person (yeah I know, but he didn't lie about his low libido he just didn't mention it, when confronted he couldn't lie)

Asexuality (or low libido as I am not supposed to pathologise according to PP..) is a real thing. Some men really have no need to have sex or very little needs https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality

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OP, you're in denial. My ex used the private browsing tab for all the naughty things... including his activity on OK Cupid. Not saying yours is, but I, too, had an extremely sexless marriage (to a verbally/psychologically abusive asshole, at that!) and it sounds similar to yours.

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