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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The new wife brought children from a previous marriage. Not that we care, but it appears she does not receive child support for them. Then, did your EX DH have more children with her? You did the right thing by not engaging with the new wife and her vicious emails. Think how pleasant that house is. It seems obvious that their life in crumbling. Try to stay out of the fray.[/quote]

From what I know, the father is out of the picture and there's no child support there.  They have a child together, that's when she decided to stay home.  Now the child is at school and she's still home.

ex-DH is fully aware of what's going on.  He tried suggesting that DS "suck it up, we are all a family" but I chewed him out.  I also found out from ex-ILs that allegedly the stepmom suggested years ago he sue ME for alimony because I had a good and stable job and "it's just not fair to everyone.  She has 1 kid and WE have 3." He squashed that idea.

I did offer him to drop CS altogether if he's struggling.  He said "I'll take it under consideration", meaning he will discuss it with his wife.  I've already called my lawyers to be prepared. I am not taking any chances, I will not be taken advantage of.  [/quote]

Be careful there, OP. That's exactly how my friend ended up paying her ex child support. The point of child support is to keep the child in a consistent living standard between the parents to the extent the other parent is deemed to have the means to do so (which is based upon a calculator). I don't know your financial picture, OP, but if you are doing as well as you say, I would not be surprised if you find yourself making payments to your ex to support your son while he's in your ex's care. My friend was shocked when her ex sought a modification of the parenting agreement (she was getting a small amount of support). Her ex only wanted to end the support. The judge looked at the finances and realized he was entitled to support, asked him if he wanted it (he did) and boom done. She pays about 500 bucks a month for the privilege.

Oh and she tried to fight it through lawyers. Didn't work. 5K in fees and she ended up having to pay his attorney's fees too (another 3K).[/quote]

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