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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with the "flippant" poster.

So what?

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You and the pp saying they would worry if their kid never got drunk are not normal.  Sorry!  But, the science is in and  teens' brains do not mature until age 25.  They are doing serious damage to their brain, liver, etc.  and you should care.  Sure, once isn't going to make someone an alcoholic but, you build up your tolerance for it and then you need more and more to get drunk.

Because you answered the way you did than your opinion is really meaningless and the op should ignore.[/quote]

Well, when you send young, healthy adults to a university they are going to do what young, healthy adults do.  And sometimes they will go to parties to socialize and there will be alcohol there.  Not cake and ice cream, but alcohol.  These are not HS teenagers being monitored by Mom and Dad anymore.

Infantalizing a 20 year old is more harmful - in my opinion - than allowing that kid to spread his wings, have fun, learn about life a little bit.  Making it illegal for a HS grad to have a freakin' beer is ridiculous.  Insisting that a person isn't really a grown up until they are 25 is sad to me.

You need to go back to college so you can learn reading comprehension.  No where did I say you should forbid a 19 or 20 from having a beer or two.  No where.  My concern is drinking until they are passed out drunk.  That isn't good for anyone especially for people with families with history of alcohol abuse.

Yes, occasionally they will make a mistake and get drunk.  Some will learn and realize they do not like waking up with a bad hangover and vomiting and others might continue to do so because they are allergic to it ( or have the alcoholic gene)

All I said was I would worry given my background of alcoholism ( like the op) and mental illness.  More and more we are learning that people with mental illness begin to self medicate with alcohol and drugs.  Not everyone of course but, if it was my kid I would start having more conversations.

This is a health issue, not a helicopter or "infantalizing"  their brains are not fully formed until age 25.   Look it up,   It is real just like climate change.

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The drinking age is 21.  It is, in fact, illegal for a 20 year old college kid to go to a bar and buy a beer or two.  That is ridiculous.

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