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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First get a grip on yourself.

Then . . .

Laugh.  Ask how bad the hangover was.  Give him your best "home remedy" for hangovers.

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Wow, ( not op) are you always so flippant?.  You don't care because he isn't your son.   The dangers of alcohol are serious and while I would expect college students to experiment, I would hope they would not get blind drunk.

I wouldn't freak out but, I would be very  concerned.  If he is three hours away perhaps you can visit him and talk ( again) about the dangers of alcohol ( not only to himself..killing brain cells, damaging liver) but he could get into serious situations...tell him you don't expect him to abstain but you will expect him to not get drunk.  Sure, he might hide the drinking but, then I wouldn't be giving him any extra money.  If he wants beer money (for beer or pot) he will have to work to buy it himself.

Remind him you expect good grades and if they slip than you will do X ( that's up to you to decide what punishment will fit)

Good luck!   We have alcoholism and mental health issues in both sides of our family and I would worry if he was trying to self medicate. (ADHD, bi-polar etc)  if I were you.[/quote]

I didn't party my way through college, and it is my expectation that my kids won't, either.

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Some of you people just sound like such puritans.

It's possible to go to class, study, get good grades, AND go out and have a few drinks 2-4x per week during college.  I, and all my friends, are living proof of this.  And yes, sometimes we all got pretty drunk.  Not 4x per week, but it happened.

It's part of the normal social scene for many, many people in college.  I am now in my 40s and still drink socially and also still have many of the wonderful friends I met in college.  All have gone on to become productive, normal, non-drunk citizens.

GET A GRIP.

Well, I bet that you look a lot older than your 40's because of all  your drinking.  I am 50 and people mistake me for 30.  I do have good genes but, alcohol dries out your skin and ages you very fast.    So, imagine how your internal organs look if you have all those wrinkles on your face?

Guess who is going to have the last laugh....lol  you can look at all the actors who drank too much and did drugs.  Look at Dennis Wilson.  He died very young but, if you look at the picture before he died and he looks ancient.  I suppose I am too vain to want to look like an old woman before my time.

But, all you drinkers carry on!  Enjoy!!
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Holy crap, you sound insane.  I drink socially, as in 1-2 drinks, 1-2x per month.  I have gone years at a time without drinking, when pregnant and nursing.  I am a completely moderate drinker, if that.  That's the point, which some of you are missing.  MANY people drink in college and go on to become occasional social drinkers.   It's normal social behavior that doesn't really mean a whole lot and is not predictive of any future issues for most people.

Also, I regularly get mistaken for my late 30s because I am and have always been a sunscreen fanatic.  So "all my drinking" seems to have worked out for me.[/quote]

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