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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP. I hate to say it, but you're in the wrong here. First, I would cool it about the money differences. Be careful because a friend was in this situation and her ex was able to adjust child support so [b]SHE had to pay him instead of vice versa.[/b]

Second, cool it with the stepmother bashing. You guys are, in fact, all in this together. Instead of focusing on the source of the problem, why don't you work with your ex to make your son feel more welcome by dropping the money talk, etc. It's no one's business WHAT you do with your time with him, but he does need to realize that he has two homes and two parents and should be able to feel welcome at each home. Instead of shutting down the discussion, reframe it this way. It will be more productive.[/quote]

Oh, if he pulls that on me, he knows I will drag him through so much hell, he won't know what hit him.  He's the one who left me with a mortgage, car payments, and HIS credit card debts.  He hasn't contributed a dime to his son's college fund in years.  So he knows better.  My lawyers are way better than him.

The only reason why I agreed to that sum of CS was because I wanted him out of my hair :mrgreen: 
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It doesn't matter what hell or lawyers you sic on him. If your lifestyles are materially different due to an earning difference, then yes, you could be on the hook for support. And if you make it messy, you will likely have to pay both sides attorneys fees. That's what happened to my friend (pp here).[/quote]

It sounds like OP has primary custody.  There would have to be a massive differential in earnings for him to owe her money and he would have to be providing the insurance for her to owe him money.[/quote]

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