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No one, including me, every said you couldn't possibly understand.  They're saying that her statements completely dismissing other people's legitimate concerns as being "silly things" is absolutely ridiculous, not supportive, and only makes people feel crummy.

She thinks she is motivating people to do something, but she's only alienating people -- and on a forum for people who ALREADY feel alone and kind of alienated by virtue of dealing with infertility.

She's almost as bad as the people who say, "oh, just adopt!  it's no big deal."  Nothing about infertility is no big deal to people who are going through it.  She has a baby now and seems to have forgotten that feeling because now she is chalking it up to "silly things."

It's one thing to say, "I didn't find IVF cycles difficult at all.  I didn't find the meds difficult." in an effort to let others considering it know that at least your experience is encouraging.  It's a completely different thing to tell a group of people who get nonstop advice from everyone about what to do and what not to do to have a baby that their concerns are silly, that their decisions regarding their medical care of "not legitimate."  It's obnoxious.  It's arrogance at the highest level.

More than one poster has told her that, has mentioned people who didn't find it "no big deal," and yet she persists and gets even more obnoxious with every post.

But, yes, you are right.  I should stop visiting this forum.  It's not supportive.[/quote]

OMG, YES!!!! This. Exactly this. [/quote]

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